How to Apologize to your Girlfriend

Instructions

 

 

Step 1

The first step is to admit that you're wrong. Remember, you're always wrong in her eyes. You might as well admit this now, because as soon as you do, you will be better off.

Step 2

Flowers or chocolate, you ask? Flowers you fool! Flowers are pretty and they make girls smile. And making a girl smile is an easy way to get whatever you want. Chocolate may seem like a good idea until she eats the entire box and blames you for making her feel like a fat pig.

Step 3

You better know what you did wrong. You know we love to throw back the ol' "you don't understand me!" line. Accept responsibility, tell her what you did and why you shouldn't have done it, and try to say all this with as much sincerity as you can muster.

Step 4

Move from the couch back into the bedroom. Send me flowers to thank me.

 

How do you apologize to your lover? The best apologies are those that are heartfelt, empathetic, without any backhandedness or fakeness. For example, if you have ever apologized by saying "I'm sorry, but..." that is an example of insincerity. Leave out the extra piece of your apologies and purely empathize. Do not try to win a battle with your apology or prove that you shouldn't need to be the one apologizing, for example. If you got into this situation, your partner just wants to feel understood, so empathize with her.

 

Dale Carnegie reiterated the previous point. It's what we most want as humans- to be understood. So instead of telling your girlfriend "I'm sorry that I didn't call you back, BUT I was really busy, and you don't call me back anyhow" or something along those lines, you should instead replace that with "I'm sorry for not calling you back, you must feel frustrated with me, I was consumed with a project that I had been working on..." etc.

 

So again - the big difference here is not arguing or trying to prove your point. You're not trying to win her approval. You are understanding HER point of view. We all just want to be heard, to be understood. We all have our insecurities, and once you understand that it will help you out tremendously in your relationships.

 

Apologies aren't always easy, and they change depending on the offending action. There is a lot of information on apologizing the correct way; it was included in the Magic of Making Up e-Book package when I purchased it a couple of years back.

 

How to Say Sorry

 

Any relation is bound to have its highs and lows. Sometimes the lows are so low that you end up in a fight. The agony of sulking and being away from your partner is worse than going to Hell. You seem to be blank about how to say sorry. Patching up after a fight has never been so difficult. Read on further to find out ways to apologize to your partner and get your relationship back on track.

 

Though it may seem odd at first, saying sorry to a loved one has its own benefits. You become more understanding and more tolerant of each other. You can tackle those petty issues that keep cropping up between the two of you without making a big fuss about it. Given below are a few tips to make it even more genuine and romantic. Also, check our related sections on how to apologize to a guy and a girl.

• Make sure you don't make a big fuss about saying sorry. It is just one word and remember, it can either make or break your relationship.
• Say it with flowers and anything that your partner loves. If she loves dancing, take her out for a slow dance and say you are sorry while she is dancing in your arms. If he loves bowling, go out for a game together and tell him when he has finished striking all pins that you are sorry.
• Never start arguing as to who started the fight first. No use looking back on something that is just not worth. Else, you will be back on square one.
• Make sure you are genuinely sorry for your mistakes. Don't try to fake up feelings just for the heck of it. Remember, it could happen to you too someday.
• Value your partner. Learn to respect his/her feelings and don't do things to hurt him/her deliberately.